We run with a varied crowd, but it certainly ain’t cutting edge. We’re middle aged, but still fun most of the time. There’s us – no kids, but we do have pets. There’s some gay people, single women, a couple of bachelors, a few other couples with no kids as well and occasionally, we hang with folks who do have children. We love kids and love having them around, but let’s face it – the folks with kids aren’t running out for dinner at a moment’s notice or always available to drink wine on our patio till the wee hours of morning. They have bigger fish to fry.
So a few weeks ago, one of the gals in our group spent a day with a friend and the friend’s perfectly lovely nuclear family and came back the next day exclaiming about “normal” they were. She mentioned it about three times before I took some serious umbrage and called her on it whereupon she backed down with some lame explanation. No harm done, but it did get me thinking. For one, what does she think of herself if she was going on so blithely about someone else’s normality, and second, what the hell is normal anyway? I’m a little outside the lines, but I do think I am pretty normal and so is everyone else in my group. We all abide the law, are honest and trustworthy and try our best to be decent human beings. So we don’t have kids and a bunch of us are not allowed to be married by the archaic laws in this country, but still – we’re as boringly and blandly normal as any nuclear family around.
What’s normal for you?